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9:18 pm by Penelope

When a Foster Baby is Hospitalized

I was right… Our 17-month-old foster baby, Lil Bit, developed pneumonia. I took him to the doctor last Friday with a fever; however, the doctor diagnosed him with a common cold and sent us home for the weekend.

He had the fever all weekend so I returned back to the clinic on Monday.
“This baby has RSV. Let’s send him to the hospital.”
A chest x-ray then confirmed that it had developed into pneumonia.

Our Valentine’s Day was spent in the hospital with a sick baby and a restless preschooler.

In the last few weeks, our family has dealt with the flu, record low temperatures complete with snow and cabin fever, Mommy’s sinus infection and my systemic allergic reaction to an antibiotic.
As a couple, we felt exhausted, discouraged, and alone.

Lil Bit was on oxygen during the night and recovered quickly.
He is now home and doing well with antibiotics and breathing treatments.
I am also on the rebound, both physically and emotionally. (Maybe I’ll try and jog tomorrow?)

“I will refresh the weary and restore tired souls.” ~ Jeremiah 31:25

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2:23 pm by Penelope

I Really Do Want to Look Like Angelina Jolie

Mr. & Mrs. Smith (Widescreen Edition)Last week, I told you about how I was struck down with the flu because I didn’t want to look like Angelina Jolie. I’m sorry, but I’m a big, fat liar!  I believe I must have some repressed, deep down desire to be like her. Face it, Angelina Jolie is:

  • beautiful,
  • married to my all-time crush, the gorgeous Brad Pitt, and
  • has an incredible heart for adoption.

That is, leaving out all the other weird stuff she’s done.

A number of things have happened since my bout with the flu. We’ve had snow in Texas! Which blew in the worst cedar, thus I’m now struck down with my winter cedar allergies. With the pollen count so high, nothing is helping. I’ve tried all the usual remedies to no avail.

I’m getting a pretty serious sinus infection. And that’s when  I saw it! The antibiotics from my last sinus infection.

However, that night after taking one dose at lunch, my lips felt chapped and my dry skin was itchy. I didn’t think much about it until I was bathing Saturday morning — I’m broke out in hives!!!

With either my early-onset Alzheimer’s or deep-seeded repressed obsession with Angelina Jolie to blame, I totally forgot – I’m allergic to the antibiotic, Bactrim!!! AHHH!!!

So here I am, with big, swollen lips, destined to look like Angelina Jolie!!!

On a worst note, our 17-month-old foster baby, Lil Bit, has had a fever for 4 days now. The doctor diagnosed him with a common cold; however, we are afraid that is moving into pneumonia….

But if you really do want to look like Angelina, check out this amazing video!

11:34 pm by Penelope

Saturday Shout-Outs

Today, I’d like to share posts from other foster care blogs.

Kristin of Adventures of a Betty Crocker WannaBe is taking a leave of absence from blogging because…Cooper’s sister is moving in with the intention of adoption! Congratulations on your growing family!

La Mama Loca has been feeling overwhelmed with everything and is asking for prayer. Go on and give her a big virtual hug! 

Katrina of Making Many Memories began a series called Finding Forever Families Fridays featuring children with Down’s Syndrome. Would you consider adopting a Down’s Syndrome child destined for a life in an institution?

Adoptive Momma of Two had this informative post on ADHD.

Adoptive Momma of Two

Brit of Living with Three Boys of Our Own inspired me about batch cooking.  Could I really do this? Have you?

The Rockin' Mama ChallengeAnd I have to mention Lisa of A Bushel and a Peck aka One Thankful Mom. This Houston mom has eleven, yes, 11 children and has hosted a Rockin’ Mama Challenge to spend 15 minutes every day rocking our little ones to promote attachment. I have to say that, after this challenge, our Stinkpot is now asking to be held now.

4:34 pm by Penelope

Am I Harboring an Illegal Immigrant?

Living in Texas, illegal immigration is a HUGE controversial topic. Especially, since April when Arizona passed their stringent illegal immigration law. With a third of the Texas population being Hispanic, our Tex-Mex culture inundates us here. So much, that we don’t really think much about whether someone is here legally or not.

How does illegal immigration affect us personally?
Our 17-month-old foster baby, Lil Bit, was born in Mexico and brought back to Texas by his birthmother.

WHY? Because the State has removed so many children from the birthmother, she cannot give birth in this area without the hospitals contacting the State for removal. Before giving birth, the birthmother (a U.S. citizen) fled to Mexico with the Mexican birthfather and gave birth to our Lil Bit in Mexico. So, Lil Bit is “officially” recognized as a Mexican citizen with a Mexican birth certificate.

MexicoThis does complicate matters in that he is not considered a U.S. citizen.  (Dual citizenship has recently become discouraged by U.S. policy.)

The birthmother has voluntarily relinquished her parental rights; however, the State has to also remove the birthfather’s parental rights before Lil Bit will be officially available for adoption.

The problem is that the birthfather is somewhere in Mexico and must be given notice before the State can legally terminate his rights. Another problem is that the mentally-challenged birthmother cannot remember where he lives. So the Mexican consulate is now trying to locate a man with a fairly common Hispanic name somewhere in Mexico.

Another court date is scheduled for next month. We anticipate that the birthfather’s parental rights will be terminated at this hearing. Then Lil Bit will officially be an orphan and available for adoption.

Because Lil Bit is not “officially” a U.S. citizen, this will make our eventual adoption of him quite a bit more complicated — more like an international adoption. Although, he is considered a Mexican national without a green card, the State does have custody of him; thus, our Lil Bit will NOT be deported. Whew!

The State is currently working on his application for U.S. citizenship.

Who knows when the courts will “officially” name Lil Bit as our son – what we know is that Lil Bit already IS our son!

3:51 am by Penelope

Use Playful Scenarios to Get Your Defiant Child to Cooperate

Day 33 and we feel as if we are making no progress!
Our defiant 3-year-old, Stinkpot, is challenging us to no end.

The Karate KidToday, I had to carry him kicking, screaming and hitting me in the face into his karate class. Once he finally calmed himself down, he had a GREAT time! However, once the class ended, he ran around everywhere and was demanding a helmet. I had to carry him out kicking and screaming.

Same thing at home. Refused to eat dinner and demanding he was hungry for cake. We are so discouraged!

Today, before leaving for karate class, his Football Guys (which are a GREAT toy for creative play) were strewn all over the living room. As usual, he refused to pick them up. So I began to race him to each piece that would be thrown away if I reached it first. We were laughing as we raced and had the toys picked up in no time.

Today, I learned that by using playful scenarios, Stinkpot will inadvertently cooperate. Am I teaching him responsibility or just trying to keep the peace? Right now, the latter.

We are so tired of our home being a war zone.

NEWS
Be sure and visit our fellow foster mom in Hawaii – She has BIG news on her website Footprints.

5:01 pm by Penelope

Do I Really Want to Look Like Angelina Jolie?

I guess I’m an easy target.  I was hit on Tuesday. He came home with me and by Tuesday night, he hopped into bed with me and wouldn’t take “no” for an answer.  He had me in bed for days. I even shared him with my husband. And he’s not even my type.  He’s Type A Influenza.

No, I didn’t get the flu shot!

Last year, I did have the flu shot (as I have since 1993); however, a severe allergic reaction had me looking like a polka-dotted Angelina Jolie with a swollen lip and hives all over.

I could have gone through allergy testing this year to determine if I would be allergic to this year’s vaccine; however, a $40 co-pay and one entire morning of testing, deterred me. Plus it really scares me to think what allergic reaction could happen next time.

So I’ve inadvertently become a risk-taker and am not running very good odds.

My husband didn’t remember to get his vaccination, and we didn’t think about the kids even being old enough.  So here we are on a January Saturday afternoon when temperatures are in the mid-70s – all stuck indoors and miserable – all because I don’t want to look like Angelina Jolie…

But if you really do want to look like Angelina, check out this video. Her transformation is amazing!

12:39 pm by Penelope

Day 18 – 365-Day Transformation: Give Challenges to a Strong-Willed Child

On Day 18 of our 365-Day Transformation Project, we enrolled him in an educational basketball program called Teams of Tomorrow.

Our hard-headed 3-year-old, Stinkpot, was excited about playing basketball. He is an incredible athlete and can amazingly dribble a basketball better than kids twice his age.

Our prayer is that the challenge and incentive of basketball will help channel his energy and behavior toward healthy pursuits, instead of the aggression that seems to rear its ugly head. 

Has giving a challenge to your strong-willed child helped with behavior issues?

5 Minutes for Mom
Angry Julie Monday
SuperMom

1:49 pm by Penelope

365-Day Transformation: Word{ful} Wednesday

Our 3-year-old, Stinkpot, is the most strong-willed, demanding, hard-headed, stubborn, ornery, obstinate, cantankerous little rascal you will ever meet. He is impossible!

He even bosses us, as parents, around. “No, drive this way!” “Put that over there!” “No, I’ll do it!”

And when he doesn’t get his way, watch out! His tirade jumps full steam ahead. He becomes this loud, fit-throwing, aggressive little monster.

He has now become so aggressive, his reputation in our area precedes him since getting kicked out of TWO, yes TWO, daycares. We struggle to find anyone in their right mind willing to take on the wrath of Stinkpot.

Not too happy after getting hit in the eye with a baseball
Don’t get me wrong, he is an extraordinary work of God, beautifully and perfectly made.
Gorgeous, athletic and smart!

God has a perfect plan for our precious Stinkpot. Our job as his parents, is to train him in the right way and when he is old, he will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Our Stinkpot is determined, head-strong, persistent, and tenacious. These very characteristics that are driving us crazy as parents, will be incredible, if directed toward a life with our Lord Jesus Christ. WOW! Can you imagine the treasures that would be stored in Heaven for our Stinkpot?

So we begin a journey. A LONG journey – toward transformation. January 1st was the first day of our first 365-day journey to intently focus on our Stinkpot’s transformation.

We are rolling up our sleeves and delving into God’s Word and any parenting resources that He lays out for us. Each step will be documented along this journey.

Focusing on transformation of our Stinkpot will be difficult if I am also working full-time; therefore, I will be taking family leave and working part-time (just to keep things going at the office and pay for our health care).

Please pray for our family!

12:07 pm by Penelope

MISCELLANY MONDAY

Miscellany Monday @ lowercase lettersTHAT SURGERY
Thanks for all the well wishes for our 16-month-old who is recovering from THAT surgery. The second day when the local anesthesia wore off was the worst pain for him. After that, he has been in good spirits and even playing outside. He can’t bathe for a few more days and he does NOT like to shower.

STINKPOT’S SURGERY
We opted to NOT have tubes put in Stinkpot’s ears this week. It was just too difficult for FosterDad with 2 little ones at home by himself. (I came home Wednesday after work and FosterDad was still in his pajamas and quite flustered)

STINKPOT’S BEHAVIOR
Our 3-year-old’s behavior is still a challenge! He has now been kicked out 2 day cares for aggression.Yesterday, he had a knife from the silverware drawer and was threatening to cut us. “I cut you!”

MY DECISION
I have made the decision to stay home with him. I will work part-time during Mother’s Day Out and use family leave. (I haven’t told my boss yet) The child needs a LOT of TLC and individual attention, and he just won’t get that at a day care from 2 workers with 23 other kids. The Mother’s Day Out has just a few kids for the short time he is there.

2011 GOALS/RESOLUTIONS
I had a huge list of goals to share with you, for health, kids, marriage, faith, blogging but given the issues with Stinkpot, I have thrown those all out.

2011 will be defined for me by one word! Everything will revolve around the word: TRANSFORMATION.

MY PRAYER
LORD,
TRANSFORM me;
TRANSFORM my child;
TRANSFORM our family.

NEXT STEPS
I have begun a 365-day Transformation Project.

Praying, focusing on HIM,
Praying, focusing on Stinkpot,
Praying, researching child behavior,
Praying, trying a new tip or technique every day,
Praying, documenting Stinkpot’s actions and reactions,
Praying….

Will you pray for us during this journey?  Can you recommend any books, websites, etc.?

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