Behavior Issues Archives - Page 8 of 8

1:56 pm by admin

MY SON LOSIN’ IT!

My 3-year-old JD, is just that – a mess!!!

For 2 days now, we have received a page full of bad behavior listed in detail – hitting, biting, and scratching the teacher, punching and kicking his friends, and other aggressive behavior.

We took him off Singulair for his asthma on October 2nd due to the labeling warnings of mood swings and aggression. He did better at first, but now his behavior is getting worse and worse. He even came at Daddy with his mouth open to BITE him!

Today, I am staying at home with him to:
(a) give the daycare a break;
(b) give JD a break;
(c) make an appointment with a doctor;
(d) possibly look for a more structured daycare.
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Have a blessed week!

12:55 pm by Penelope

MISCELLANY MONDAY – Orphan, Mood Swings and Halloween

OUR LIL ORPHAN
Last Tuesday was a court hearing for Lil Bit, our 13-month-old foster boy. I was out-of-town and so my hubby was there when the judge terminated the birthmother’s parental rights. Our foster baby is now officially half an orphan! I say that since the birthfather has not been located. The State is working with the Mexican consulate to make a good faith effort to locate him. Until then…

MOOD SWINGS
If you follow my blog, our 3-year-old Stinkpot’s strong will has been an incredible challenge for us. Last week was horrible! Again! Temper tantrums, mood swings, and general meanness has made us worry about him. Stinkpot’s birthfamily has a history of mental instability, and we have been seriously discussing taking him to a child psychologist for counseling, not just for him, but for us, in order to deal with him.

However, on Friday, when I went for my annual physical exam, my doctor asked me if I was having any depression or mood swings from Singulair. (“I’m too busy with kids to even think of being depressed” was my reply.)

Since Stinkpot has been taking Singular for his asthma for nearly 2 years now – maybe Singulair could be his issue???

I have a call into his doctor to discuss it!!!

HALLOWEEN
Can you believe it’s less than 4 weeks away? Have you already begun the quest for the perfect Halloween costume for you and your kids? Isn’t this just the cutest costume for less than $10?

Have a great week!

12:12 pm by admin

My Son and People of Walmart – Funny Story

I am so proud of my son, JD! No, really, I am. But sometimes I just want to crawl into a hole. Last night, again, JD said what was on his mind, just a little too loud.

To make a short story long, JD has had a rough week.
Tuesday morning was H-E-double L!
He was NOT happy about waking up – that is an understatement! He woke up as a possessed, angry devil child. He was totally out of control. Instead of losing it with him, I chose to leave him naked on the bathroom floor, go lock myself in the baby’s room and get him dressed before dealing any more with Damien JD.

Damien JD followed me and was outside the baby’s room, screaming and banging on the door – the whole while, I’m saying, “I want nice JD, not mean JD!”

I guess it worked because as soon as I opened the bedroom door to come out, nice JD jumped up, smiled at me and said, “Hi, Mommy!”

JD has not been much better at day care this week. (He went to the “principal’s office” twice – he’s only 3 years old!) So for an incentive, Wednesday night before bed and all Thursday morning, I told him that if he’s a good boy, he can go to “Mall-Mart” and get candy.

“If you wake up from nap before your friends, are you going to kick them to get up or are you going to lay on your mat and be a good boy so you can go to Wal-Mart?”

“I be a good boy, Mommy.”

And would you believe that it worked! His teachers were “Hallelujah!” They were amazed that he remained laying on his cot, while other classmates were telling him to get up. Hallelujah for Wal-Mart!

As we were leaving Wal-Mart, a heavy-set woman rode by wearing a tube top.
“MOMMY, HER HAS NO SHIRT ON!”

This is NOT what he saw, but go to www.peopleofwalmart.com for more funny pics.

Tonight, if JD is a good boy, he’s going to a football game with Daddy! Sure hope it works!

Have a GREAT weekend!

9:07 am by admin

FOSTER BABY AND OTHER MISCELLANEOUS THINGS

The hardest part of adopting through foster care is the uncertainty of a final adoption.

Our 10-month-old foster boy, Lil Bit, was placed in our home after a violent dispute between the mother and her grandmother, last December. The mother had had her parental rights terminated with her 5 previous children which were not placed with relatives. We were told the baby would be ours for adoption. (oops!)

This case has been a complete mess and $6,000 in legal fees later – Lil Bit is still with us until a custody hearing in late September. You can read the history HERE.

We had a permanency meeting last month to discuss the forever plan for Lil Bit and his mother’s progress for reunification. When a child is first removed, the parents and the State draw up a permanency plan checklist that lays out all the individual steps a parent must do in order to be reunified with their child(ren). Items include things as routine (for the normal responsible population) as getting (and keeping) a job or income and finding a place to live independently. Other things include drug testing, anger management classes, parenting classes, first aid training, and individual or group counseling.

In the meeting, Lil Bit’s mentally-challenged birth mother showed that she is working hard to complete everything on the permanency plan checklist to get back custody of her baby. She had completed all the training and is now receiving SSI and will be moving into government housing soon. She has purchased a baby bed and high chair for Lil Bit, fully anticipating his return.

This is the saddest part! After all of her hard work, in this meeting, a State worker looked the birth mother in the face and told her,

“We do not believe that you have the mental capacity to care for the baby by yourself.

The current plan for permanency for this baby is adoption.“

I felt so horrible for this mother. She really has no clue and neither does her mother.

The State’s current plan is adoption by the baby’s great-aunt. The birth mother and grandmother oppose this adoption and stated in the meeting that they want us to adopt Lil Bit instead of their family. They stated that the uncle is a weekend disc jockey and there is a lot of alcohol consumption in the home. “They like to party.” The State did acknowledge that they did need to “check out some things” in regard to their home study.

The CASA stated that another court hearing will occur before our original September 22nd custody hearing. We believe that the State will be seeking to terminate the birth mother’s parental rights before September, but we do not know.

The good news is that Lil Bit will stay with us in the meantime. More time to be a true blessing in our home!

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I just heard that everything is fine for the licensing of our home for the 18-year-old with Asperger’s Syndrome. We still haven’t heard from his case worker and are assuming they found a home for him.

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Yesterday, our 3-year-old Stinkpot, was very upset with us for not taking him with us to “Big Church” after Sunday School. So last night, we took him with us to Sunday evening worship since there wasn’t any childcare that night. He did GREAT, sitting up in his chair, paying close attention – UNTIL – the singing stopped. Then continually, loudly whining politely asking to go to “his class”.

So he and I went outside to the church playground, split a Wendy’s Apple Pecan Chicken Salad, and enjoyed a special “Mommy and Me” picnic!

Hosted by Krystyn
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