Our strong-willed preschool son is a defiant one! This strong-willed Kindergartener has been so demanding and obstinate lately. And we are exhausted!
We recently attended a foster care training on mental health issues, such as depression, PTSD, AD/HD. And when the speaker showed the slide on Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), our mouths fell open…
What is Oppositional Defiant Disorder?
ODD is a pattern of negative, hostile and defiant acts that lasts more than 6 months. (How about 2+ years?)
Symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder
- Loses temper easily
- Argues with adults
- Refuses to obey rules
- Often annoys people on purpose
- Blames others for his mistakes
- Often touchy or easily annoyed with others
- Often angry and resentful
- Often spiteful
A child must exhibit at least 4 or more of the following symptoms to be diagnosed with ODD.
My son exhibits every single symptom of ODD!!!
Now don’t get me wrong – I am not diagnosing my son with ODD! To the contrary, my prayer is that he does not have ODD.
Because…get this: He has had no tantrums at school this entire year! My observations are that he only exhibits these symptoms of ODD with his parents!
Is my son a future Oscar winner? A strong-willed boy manipulating his parents? Should we revamp to a more structured disciplinary program for him?