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9:00 am by Penelope

My Confession: Growing Up in Poverty

I grew up poor! 

My childhood home was little more than a leaky-roofed shack. The hole in the sunken dining room floor occasionally permitted various animals, such as possums, to take up residence in our Texas home at night.

But did I really know poverty?

The hand-me-down clothes that were new to me and made me feel proud caused classmates to ridicule me.

But did I really know poverty?

I have recently been moved while reading Kisses from Katie, the incredible story of a 2007 high school graduate who is changing lives for orphaned children in Uganda (she adopted 14 of them). The poverty in Africa is nothing that I can fathom. I grew up in poverty by United States standards, but certainly not by worldwide standards.

In Africa, poverty and HIV are a way of life.  HIV is epidemic in most African countries – over 15% of the adult population of South African countries is infected. The epidemic is partially due to the poverty – many women and children become involved in sex work in order to live and eat. Another factor for the epidemic is the culturally-accepted practice of polygamy and domestic abuse (1). Violence, coerced sex, and rape is rampant – 1 in 4 South African women are raped (2).

In Africa, due to the lack of medical care, HIV is a death sentence. Many children are orphaned at a young age.

But there is a way out!

Let’s say you’re an African child growing up in poverty. A church nearby your home announces that they have partnered with Compassion International and because of this partnership, if you are registered in the program, you will receive benefits that were never before available to you. Benefits like:

  • educational opportunities
  • health care and health-related instruction
  • nutrition
  • life-skills training

And opportunities to hear about and respond to the gospel!

It’s all very exciting so you get registered at the local church. The church volunteers gather information about you and your family and take your picture. You’re officially registered!

You now have all the financial benefits of this program but there’s more! You are going to be connected to one sponsor. You just have to wait for someone to sponsor you.

And for some children, they wait and wait and wait…

My heart is with these African children waiting for 6 months or longer for someone to sponsor them, especially the boys. If a boy’s heart is changed, will he continue the cycle of polygamy and violence against women that fuels the spread of HIV?

Maybe our family can make a difference in the life of 11-year-old Ghana boy, Godfred? Or 12-year-old, Mugisha in Rwanda? Can your family make a difference?

I didn’t really know poverty.

Although just a little more than a shack, I was in a home with running water.

Although I didn’t wear Nike shoes or Calvin Klein jeans, I had clothing.

Although much of it from a garden and fruit trees, I had food in my belly each night.

Although the color of silver, my molars are still in place to chew food.

Although there is a scarred indentation on my left bicep, it is a permanent reminder that I cannot die from smallpox.

I didn’t know poverty.

Sponsor a Waiting Child from Compassion International on Vimeo.

10:00 am by Penelope

Our Words to a Child Make a Difference

Today I am thrilled to have a former foster child write this moving post about how one person’s words made a difference in his life.

Warning: You might want to have a tissue close by…

former foster child make a difference in a life

“SO, WHY ARE YOU HERE?“

That was the question I’d grown accustomed to hearing. Gone were the days when someone would ask for my name, or where I went to school. Suddenly, the sum of my existence could only be defined by one factor; the reason why I had become a foster child.

The answer to that question would provide all the necessary information needed to place me into one of two categories; someone who had done something terribly wrong, or someone to whom something terrible had been done. Was I the victim, or the offender?

So… why was I there?

Does it really matter? Would it make much of a difference? Sure, those details may tell you about where I’ve been, but what would it say about where I was headed?

I had been ripped out of my home and away from my family, only to be dropped into a house full of strange adults and strange boys. I was being held against my will, and nobody seemed to be in too much of a hurry to rectify the situation.

About two months after I had been placed into foster care, someone told me something that that I will never forget…

You can allow yourself to become bitter, and thus gain nothing from the experience. Or, you can take the opportunity to learn something from your situation, and grow into a better person as a result.

His words were simple and to the point. At first, they stung. Imagine the nerve he had to insinuate that I should assume any responsibility for my current circumstance. That I should become an active participant within my surroundings and not just a spectator.

It wasn’t until after his words sank in that I began to see the truth in them.

Up until that point, all anyone ever seemed to be concerned about was why I was in foster care to begin with. Nobody had stopped to talk to me about my future, or how my attitude in the present could affect it. That conversation, however brief, made a world of difference for me.

I had other experiences with foster parents and social workers that were not as positive. Perhaps I encountered them on a bad day. I don’t know. What I do know is that the negative comments did not produce positive results. Maybe if they’d understood how much their negativity set me back they would’ve chosen their words more wisely. Maybe.

It’s very important for those whose occupation involves working with children, to remember that what may be ‘just another day at work’ for them, could very well be a life defining moment for a child. Words are powerful and can change the course of a child’s life. I know this has definitely proven to be true in mine.

The next time you are ‘on the job’, please ask yourself, “Why am I here?” Perhaps the answer will lead you in the direction of kindness. It could very well change the course of someone’s life.

Isn’t it amazing how one moment can change a child’s life?

Check out this video of Dr. Wess Stafford, President and CEO of Compassion Ministries, as he illustrates one such moment…

Please check out Just a Minute: In the Heart of a Child, One Moment…Can Last Forever! full of inspiring stories of how a minute can make the difference in a child’s life forever.
Peter Combs is first and foremost an avid reader. His love for a good story began before he knew how to read. But it wasn’t until the age of six when he watched a movie about the life of L.Frank Baum that he realized that he too could create magical stories from faraway lands. But before he had time to create a new and exciting world, he was living an adventure all of his own, full of real life characters- both good and bad. His journey had many stops, and each chapter was different from the last: life as a foster child; dealing with memory loss; jumping out of burning buildings; at times homeless; and finally, the road to redemption.

Through it all Peter has learned that life is the most exciting story ever told.

You can visit Peter’s blog at Home, or follow him on Twitter.

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