Love From a Birthmother

I’ve begun receiving hate mail. Yes, it’s true. In my naivety, I didn’t think that raising abused and neglected children would be something anyone could hate. However, a community of birthmothers, angry at the foster care system, have attempted on numerous occasions to lash out at me and other foster parents for our role in the system. Although sometimes shocked by their harsh words, I do realize that they are hurting. I pray for healing for these birthfamilies.

However, not all birthfamilies despise foster families.

Some birthfamilies are grateful for the care foster parents give their children. I recently received this comment from a birthmother:

I would like to know how to let my kids’ foster family know how much they mean to me and that they will always be family to me and my kids. They have been with them for 2 years and they are now coming home. These people have been wonderful to me, my kids and my new baby.  Without them, none of this (reunification) would be able to happen.

I was really close with them until we got the news the kids would be coming home . I am sure they are crushed. I just want them to know they will always be Mama H and Daddy S to the kids as well as their kids’ brother and sister.

Can anyone tell me the best way to go about this please?

My reply was: “a simple card with a letter stating how you feel should help them through the healing process.”

What are your thoughts?  How can a birthmother show love and appreciation to foster parents?