Is Foster Care Adoption Risky?

by JoyKinard · 9 comments

in Adoption,Being a Foster Home,Concerns,Foster Care

When we began working in foster care over fifteen years ago there was very little risk involved for us. We worked in a group home and had no intentions of adopting any of the children who came through our home. Most of the kids were teenagers and not looking for a forever family, but a safe place to live. We were a mere step along their path to adulthood. We were fine with that.

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A few years ago our hearts changed and we opened our own home as a foster home. This time, our intentions were to adopt through foster care. We have been licensed with our current foster care agency since November of 2010. One week after our license was approved we received “the call.” We were told upfront that our family would have to be open to adoption to accept the referral, but adoption could not be guaranteed. We accepted the referral and three days later we held our brand new baby girl, our “Sweet Potato Pie”  in our arms.

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Not unlike many other cases in foster care, the story of her family is a mess. This particular case is complicated with siblings, family placements and an individual who has used his political influence to misrepresent the parents. It is recommended by the state agency and the Foster Care Review Board for us to hire an attorney of our own to fight for parental termination of rights. The state is also pursuing this outcome.

In this case, our state adoptions agency has not completed the adoption home study packet. We began that process at the same time we applied for foster care. While we are in the process of being licensed to adopt our girl specifically, we still lack the final approval simply due to shortages of staff to handle the high caseloads. Hiring an attorney may get us closer to our sweet girl being legally free for adoption, but it will not guarantee us the ability to be the ones to adopt her.

Legally, we could tie up thousands of dollars out of our pocket, only to have her returned to her parent due to political favors. Emotionally, our hearts could be broken. Realistically, this is foster care! Anytime you take a foster child into your home, you have no legal guarantees that you will be able to adopt your child. The state has the authority to move foster children at any time. Judges have the authority to send children back to their biological families. Foster children can be moved into placement with relatives who show up two years into placement.

Even with all of the legal risks, foster children deserve a safe and loving home to live in, even if it is only temporary. Legally, you may not have a guarantee for permanency, but you have the opportunity to invest your time and attention into a child who has lost their family. No matter the legal risk, the foster care system can not function without the support of loving foster homes.

Joy is a small town Mom with big girl dreams. She and her husband, Barry, have two biological children Jordan (13) and Riley (11)  and one beautiful foster baby girl, “Sweet Potato Pie” (9 months).  Joy is a writer and stay at home Mom advocating for foster care, families and sight for children with visual disabilities.

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1 Paula July 27, 2014 at 9:47 am

We are a family of 6 now because of the fost adopt program. yes, it is emotional and some days are very hard but I would not trade any of it. you have to do this with the thought of love them while you got them and pray that the ones that can stay will. You cry when most of them have to leave and you got to court to help protect them . But in the end they are all children of God and need someone to love them. it is very rewarding to get your family this way.

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2 Denise Allacher February 8, 2013 at 3:39 pm

I’m a foster mama who adopted my two boys last fall. They are older, 15 and 12. In my case they both already had parental rights terminated. They were in “the system” for seven and six years respectively. Both in 15+ placements. The system in all states is broken. Because I provided permanency for my older son I can no longer be a foster parent, because he has an assault on his record. If I would have kept him as a foster…no problem. CRAZY. It’s foster care.
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3 Penelope
Twitter: Foster2Forever
February 23, 2013 at 5:07 am

Oh, Denise, that is crazy that you can’t remain a foster home if you adopt a violent foster child. No wonder the poor kid wasn’t adopted sooner. Just love on the children you’ve been blessed with.

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4 A.Marie
Twitter: ARick64
August 24, 2011 at 11:44 am

As a Mother of a daughter (now 20) that came to use as a 2 year old foster child, fostering, then adoption, can be an amazing experience. But, you have to be prepared for what happens after adoption. Too often, people tend to focus on only the adoption part of it, but there is so much more to this. Sometimes, the agency does not reveal much about the birth family because (a) either there isn’t much known about them, or (b) they don’t want to scare off the foster parents. I wish that we had known more about the medical history of our daughter’s family before we dived into adoption. Not that it would have changed the outcome (oh gosh, NO!), but we could have maybe been more prepared. Our daughter eventually was diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol, among a list of other diagnoses, and it has been a very rough, bumpy ride.
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5 Adoption Mama August 18, 2011 at 6:33 am

Fostering, adoption….all are a beautiful gift from God…risky and emotional at many times, but beautiful!
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6 Erin Bassett
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August 17, 2011 at 2:33 pm

What a great post! I’d love to foster adopt, but my hubs isn’t ready for that yet…in the meanwhile I’m reading all I can about it so I’ll be prepared.
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7 Brooke August 16, 2011 at 7:35 am

Beautifully written and it was a great perspective to learn from. We wanted to pursue foster-to-adopt in our county and it was just a big ole’ mess!

It broke our hearts because we knew that their were children out there needing parents, even if only for a short while.

Brooke
http://www.TheAnnessaFamily.blogspot.com

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8 Sunday August 15, 2011 at 10:49 am

Oops!! *how* we come by our children.

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9 Sunday August 15, 2011 at 10:45 am

“Even with all of the legal risks, foster children deserve a safe and loving home to live in, even if it is only temporary.” This is so true! There are no guarantees in life, including who we come our children. But there is always an opportunity to touch the lives of others in profound ways if we are willing to take the risk and put our hearts out there. I was so fortunate to have so many wonderful adults step up and take on that challenge when my parents wouldn’t.

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