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9:16 am by Penelope

Would You Adopt a Special Needs Child in Foster Care?

We are The Burdick Family. We have fostered 12 years and have adopted six children who would otherwise have gone into foster care or could not reunify, making us a family of twelve. Our kids ages are 27, 25, 23, 21, 15, 14, 12, 5, 3, and 3.

Our fostering journey began 15 years ago. After starting foster care classes and learning just how hard it can be — “we could never fit as foster parents!” We dropped out of the classes; however, in that process, we submitted an application to adopt with a local ministry.

Within a week, the agency called us about adopting a special-needs baby. The mother was in an amazing and supportive foster family but decided that private adoption was best for her child. When she gave her son to our family, she also gave herself to us as a daughter!

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Special Needs in Foster Care

A year later, the agency called again about adopting another special-needs baby who would have gone into foster care otherwise.

Three years later, his cousin was in foster care. The agency asked us to become licensed to become foster parents. We completed our licensing requirements and our son’s cousin came live with us at three months old.

Since then, we have fostered many babies — several were able to return home, and those who didn’t, we committed to adopt.

The last three, almost four, years, we had three medically-fragile babies, all needing g-tubes; each kiddo with their own unique journey.

Today, our 5-year-old forever child is g-tube free, and attending kindergarten.
Both our three-year-old sons are, too, off their g-tubes, attending preschool, and as healthy as can be.

The journey has had many ups and downs, but overall and without a doubt, we would do it all again to have the privilege of loving children from hard places.

We had amazing support from other foster families as well as our immediate family and friends. Our older four children have grown in compassion and love all their younger siblings.

12 Tips for Fostering a Special Needs Child

7:02 am by Penelope

Changing the What-If’s for Emergency Foster Care Placements

Many times, children may immediately be removed from their parents if the situation is dangerous. What this means for a foster parent is that calls can happen at anytime of day or night.

One summer night, our phone rang at 11pm. As I groggily answered the call, a caseworker told me that she had a sibling group of 3 that needed a place to stay – a preschooler, a toddler, and an infant.

“Can you take all these foster kids?”

We only had 2 beds available, and I began feeling guilty, wondering where these children would wind up sleeping that night. But with quick thinking in my groggy state, I suddenly realized that the baby would need a crib and not a bed!

I SAID YES!

Because of the shortage of foster homes, these children were coming from two counties over – nearly two hours away. Because of the extensive travel involved, the twice weekly family visits were really difficult on these foster children.

After a week, the caseworker realized that the children desperately needed to be placed closer to family. The caseworker began looking for a foster home in their county that could take this sibling group. It took a few days, but she finally discovered a foster home in their home county through an outside agency. The kids left us a few days later.

As chaotic as our family life was those weeks, my heart rejoices in that these siblings didn’t have to be split from each other.

Sadly, this story is not unique, it is the reality for emergency placements in the foster system. There just aren’t enough foster homes, so unlike this sibling set, many siblings are split up.

  • WHAT IF children placed into foster care on an emergency basis could be placed in the best possible home for them and their needs?
  • WHAT IF social services have the time to identify that best possible family situation for these children?
  • WHAT IF children placed in foster care could stay in their community, and possibly their current school?
  • WHAT IF children placed in foster care could stay with siblings while the county finds a home for ALL the children?
  • WHAT IF children placed into foster care had a home to go to while the county conducts a background check on a family member?

A new short-term placement program in Adams County, Colorado is changing that for foster children in the area.

HOMES FOR HOPE is changing the “What-If’s” for children placed in foster care.

Adams County, which encompasses the Denver area, created the short-term placement program — called “HOMES FOR HOPE” — the first of its kind in the state, and perhaps the country, because this program is government-sponsored.

Adams County purchased and renovated two single-family homes that are now ready for foster families to move into. One home sits on 128 acres and the other on 17 acres. Because Adams County owns the HOMES FOR HOPE, host foster families will not have to pay mortgage or rent.

Now, when a traditional foster home is unavailable, children can go to a HOMES FOR HOPE instead. Caseworkers will have the time to search for the best permanent situation for the children – that could be with close relatives, a longer-term foster family or back with their parents.

  • Children can stay in HOMES FOR HOPE for up to 90 days until a longer-term placement can be found.
  • Siblings will be able to remain together because foster families will be certified for children 0-18 years of age.
  • Children can stay in their community and in their current school, lessening the number of disruptions to their life.
  • Caseworkers have more time to find the right foster home for these children instead of finding the first available bed.
  • One home is designated as a safe place for teen mothers and their children.
  • The HOMES FOR HOPE provide intensive care as the foster parents organize family, medical, and therapeutic appointments, and comfort children through early days of fear and uncertainty.
  • The children will be seen by medical professionals within 72-hours, so the child’s medical and developmental needs are met and addressed.
  • The right foster family best suited to meet the children’s needs can be found, should they need to remain in foster care on a long-term basis.

Nightlight is the certifying agency and supports the foster families upon placement. Nightlight is actively looking for interested families who are willing to become foster parents and live in the homes full-time. The ideal HOMES FOR HOPE foster parent is trauma-informed, has parenting experience, and is willing to move.

If you are interested in becoming a HOMES FOR HOPE foster parent:
Complete this survey to be contacted with more information; or
Contact Meaghan Nally at mnally@nightlight.org or (518) 369-2888.

To learn more about Homes for Hope, visit: https://www.nightlight.org/denver-foster-care-homes-for-hope/.

7:14 am by Penelope

Siblings Adopting Siblings – True Stories

What happens when a family can’t be adopting siblings? Saying no is a guilt-ridden decision that can affect children long-term. Keeping the biological bond through adopting siblings can help children navigate their adoptee identity together. This biological connection can help minimize adoptee grief as the children get older.

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The Smiths faced that decision. After nearly two years of being foster parents to a baby boy, the Smiths finally adopted the young boy. After his adoption, the Smith’s family felt complete.

However, nearly four years later, the Smiths received a phone call they weren’t prepared for. Their forever son had siblings that needed a home!

Their son’s sisters moved in and the Smith family had to adjust to a larger family. However, parenting a home full of traumatized children began to take its toll on the Smith family. Realizing their limitations in raising children with numerous special needs, the Smiths were distraught about disrupting the placement of the girls with their biological brother.

Mrs. Smith’s sister, Shanna, had grown extremely attached to her foster nieces, and although Shanna already had four children, she just couldn’t bare the thought of never seeing her foster nieces again. Shanna said to her husband: “Babe…..please don’t say that I’m crazy…..but I really am pretty smitten with those girls!” Shanna was shocked when her husband responded that he felt the same way!

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Shanna and her husband leaped into the foster licensing process in order to keep the girls in their family, and in constant contact with their biological brother.

The Yoder’s have now become foster parents to their foster nieces. They hope one day to become the forever home to two little girls that can grow up as cousins with their biological brother. By adopting siblings, the children will grow up with a biological connection.

2:19 pm by Penelope

How Adoption Changed Our Story

November is National Adoption Month and a time to celebrate the unique way families grow via the miracle of adoption.  Each adoption story is unique and woven together in a special way.

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Follow me on Instagram as I share our adoption stories (we have three).

DAY ONE – FACT  Nearly 102,000 children that are currently available for adoption from the foster care system in the United States simply need a parent!  Not a perfect parent, but a parent perfect for them! More than 30 percent (31,000) of these foster kids are between the ages of 11 and 17.

FACT: Over 100,000 children in #fostercare in the U.S. are available for #adoption.

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 7, 2015 at 6:03am PST

DAY 2 – INTRODUCTIONS DAY 3 – THOUGHTS BEFORE ADOPTION You can read more of my infertility struggle.

THOUGHTS BEFORE #ADOPTION: I struggled through #infertility & attending a #babyshower could send me into a tailspin of sadness. It was strange how I could feel happy for the #momtobe but feel this longing ache deep inside wondering if I would ever have the joy of holding a #baby that would someday call me mom. It got to a point where I just didn’t attend #babyshowers. But that was before I was a #fostadopt parent. #knittogetherbyadoption #infertilitysucks A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 11, 2015 at 3:59am PST

DAY 4 – THOUGHTS AFTER ADOPTION

THOUGHTS AFTER #ADOPTION: The sting of #infertility lasted a few years; however, after my #adoptedchildren were older, conversations became less about the early years & more about them as individuals with their own interests & personalities. I know nothing of the birth of my #sons’ friends- whether natural, C-section or #adopted – it doesn’t matter! These #boys are my sons! No adjective needed! #my3sons #infertilitysucks but #adoptionrocks! #knittogetherbyadoption

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 12, 2015 at 2:32am PST

DAY 5 – OUTSIDE PERSPECTIVES The perspective of others can sometimes be insensitive and other times downright hurtful. My family just didn’t understand the importance of our son’s adoption.  I was elated on our adoption day but still felt intense grief due to my mother’s rejection.

OUTSIDE PERSPECTIVES: #knittogetherbyadoption By the time the #adoption of our youngest son was finalized, LilBit had been in our family for nearly two years. Through hospitalizations, surgeries, court hearings, & investigations – he nearly left us many times. Others didn’t see how important & special #adoptionday was for us. I was heartbroken that my family didn’t want to be a part of our celebration on #NationalAdoptionDay four years ago. This is how that #grief affected me: http://bit.ly/18yB9ul A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 10, 2015 at 10:10am PST

DAY 6 – HOW WE MET We have 3 sons each through the miracle of adoption. Our oldest son was adopted via a private adoption, yet the youngest two sons were adopted via foster care. You can download the full story of our youngest son’s adoption.

HOW WE MET: Our oldest became our #son via a private #adoption. Steve rushed to Houston when birth mom went into labor, but Bubba couldn’t wait to make his appearance. His birth mom gave him a notebook about her & the dad with photos, letters, & fun facts – we still have it. Our middle son, JD, came to us as a #baby for #fostercare only. He lit up my heart when the CW was still holding & he smiled at me with only two bottom teeth. So sick & congested, he only slept 15 minutes at a time that first miserable night. He officially became our #son 2 years later. Our #babyboy, LilBit, came as a call just before Christmas at 4 months old as a legal risk #placement going immediately to adoption. Lots of crazy court cases before we adopted him 2 years later on #NationalAdoptionDay. #KnitTogetherByAdoption   A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 9, 2015 at 2:35pm PST

DAY 7 – OTHER HOMES Our middle son, JD, was placed in another foster home before he joined our family.

OTHER HOMES: Our middle son was first placed into #fostercare into a home at #FortHood; however, news of #deployment caused this family to make the hard choice to move this 8-month-old baby. JD was there only a few days before he joined our family on March 4, 2008. I think about how miraculous it was for him to be moved to our home 2 counties away. But God knew what he was doing for him to become my son! #knittogetherbyadoption A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 10, 2015 at 9:05am PST

DAY 8 – WHAT MAKES ME SMILE – WORLD ADOPTION DAY

#WorldAdoptionDay! These #boys make me #smile when I think how #blessed I am to have been #chosen to be their mom! #knittogetherbyadoption   A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 10, 2015 at 5:10am PST

DAY 10 CULTIVATING BIRTHFAMILY CULTURE  We don’t celebrate our son’s Mexican culture to the same extent as our American culture.

CULTIVATING CULTURE: http://bit.ly/QUsRpG Our youngest #son was born in #Mexico. Through our #adoption process, we were met with criticism because we weren’t #Hispanic. #Mexican culture became a reason to remove LilBit from our #adoptive home. We eventually prevailed to keep him in our family (with the birth mother’s help). We do want our Mexican child to be proud of his first culture; however, he is now our American son & we will celebrate that! #knittogetherbyadoption A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Nov 10, 2015 at 2:50am PST

 

Stay tuned on Instagram!

10:16 am by Penelope

I Judged Birthfamily Until I Became One

Judgment! If we are honest, we’ve all done it! And especially, as a foster parent, and hearing the stories of the children in my care, I’ve judged the birthfamily.  How could a parent choose a party, a boyfriend, or drugs over caring for a baby?

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Then one day, I received a call for a placement; however, this call wasn’t about one of THOSE families – it was a call about a child from my own family.

Child Protective Services was removing the baby from a family member – and in all honestly, we all knew the child wasn’t safe in those conditions.

I Became the Birthfamily

All of a sudden, the tables were turned and I was the one being judged, even by the CPS caseworker – just for being a member of THAT family.  And would you believe, that even though I was a licensed foster parent, the caseworker did not want to place the baby with us?  My requests to bring the baby into our family were met with deaf ears, and my frustrations with the foster care system increased, albeit from another angle.  A paradigm shift, for sure.

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After a number of months of fruitless calls to CPS, I actually met my youngest cousin and her foster family at a Christmas party for foster kids.  The foster parents loved her and were keeping her safe. We exchanged numbers, and the foster family kept in touch with me while she was in care.  The child eventually reunited with her other parent, and the case was closed.

Check out endmommywars.com where moms can find encouragement instead of judgement.

Disclosure: I am honored to partner with Similac to #EndMommyWars and support other moms rather than place judgement. 

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10:14 am by Penelope

Questions and Answers About Fostering

If you are following me on Instagram, then you’ll know that every Friday, I ask questions about fostering now with the hashtag #FosterCareQuestions.  I’ve really enjoyed reading about all the different experiences of foster parents from all over.

I’ve found a very strong community of other foster and adoptive parents on Instagram. Are you on Instagram?

Some of my favorite fostering Instagrammers are:

  • Erin Bohn, with beautiful photos,
  • Elizabeth Oates, always inspiring,
  • aalively, with really adorable kids,
  • SilentDorothy with lots of photos of life in Alaska,
  • Jason Linton is a real nut & his wife has lots of Patience!
  • Plus many other foster parents!

If you are on Instagram, be sure and follow our adventures. and join in on the conversations on fostering children.

Below are the #FosterCareQuestions.

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Go to Instagram, answer the #FosterCareQuestions, and follow me and other foster parents.

#FosterCareFriday – I’m Penelope & have been a foster parent since 2008. We’ve had 20 kids from #fostercare in our home & 2 baby boys became our forever sons. We are currently on hiatus.

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Aug 7, 2015 at 3:51pm PDT

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#fostercarefriday question: How long it take you to get licensed for #fostercare? It took us nearly a year due to a move & a stubborn CW. #fosterparent A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Jun 27, 2014 at 10:04am PDT


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#fostercarefriday What topic should have been discussed more in your #fostercare training? #fosterparent

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Sep 19, 2014 at 11:57am PDT

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#FosterCareFriday – What were you doing when you received your first placement call? #FosterCare A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Aug 21, 2015 at 3:53pm PDT


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Today’s #fostercarefriday prompt: How long was it until your 1st placement from #fostercare arrived?

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Jul 18, 2014 at 8:41am PDT

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#fostercarefriday SHARE how many #fostercare placements you’ve had! We’ve had 16 in 6 years. 2 stayed forever! Your turn! A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Sep 5, 2014 at 9:48am PDT


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#FosterCareFriday Share your tips to make the 1st night in #FosterCare easier!

A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on May 29, 2015 at 9:30am PDT

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#FosterCareFriday – Do you receive additional clothing allowance for your kids in #fostercare? (For us – Sometimes yes at first placement & sometimes no.) I think it depends on where you are & budgeting issues. With back to school approaching, have you asked? A photo posted by Penelope Webster (@foster2forever) on Jul 17, 2015 at 2:28pm PDT

Also check out the answers to nosy questions foster parents get!

 

6:48 am by Penelope

Celebrating Amazing Foster Dad of FIVE Little Ones

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #NauticaforDad #CollectiveBias

We became foster parents in 2008 and have fostered 16 kids during that time.  As parents of neglected and traumatized kids, our journey has not been easy one. In fact, we’ve had to learn our limits as parents, especially with the placements in the summer of 2012.

My husband was anxiously watching the calendar that school year. Every day that went by was one day closer to his ultimate goal in teaching — early retirement!  After teaching special education for the past decade, he was eager to relax at the end of his teaching career.

Not that life at home with our two boys was relaxing. Our 5-year-old forever son, placed with us as an 8-month-old, had been having all sorts of explosive behavior that he had been kicked out of THREE day cares.  We were struggling in parenting him, but then again, he’s only five, right? And parenting him with his 3-year-old brother, chaos is expected, right? We were living our normal with our two rambunctious preschoolers.

Suddenly, one day, I received a call asking if we would accept a placement.  The placement was a sibling group of THREE – but we only had TWO beds available in our home.  As the cloud of guilt overcame any clear thinking – I realized we only needed two beds because, get this – the baby doesn’t need a bed since she will sleep in a crib!

I immediately said “YES” because how heartless can you be to say no to a BABY, right?

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In the summer of 2012, our family looked like this: our 5-year-old forever son, 4-year-old foster son, 3-year-old forever son, nearly 2-year-old foster daughter (possibly FASD), and a 9-month-old foster baby!

While I was at my quiet desk job all day, Dad was at home with FIVE kids – 3 rambunctious, quibbling preschool boys, one very active non-verbal toddler, and a baby!

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Welcome to retirement, Dad! So long to a relaxing summer enjoying retirement!

The stress of parenting five little ones all day alone was overwhelming for my husband (with a history of high blood pressure, no doubt).

Our 4-year-old foster son constantly fought with our 3-year-old son. Our 2-year-old sensory-seeking foster daughter was constantly into things and would scream at just the mention of sleep – she could only fall asleep with hard rocking motion.  And then there was the baby… That was along with our two forever sons.

But through that summer, I gained a new respect for my husband while parenting this herd of little ones. He is the anchor of our ever-changing family.

I also learned that I should discuss accepting foster care placements with my husband first.

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And even years later, I’m still trying to make it up to him and like to treat him special on Father’s Day. With our recent move to the Austin area, I finally went and checked out the shopping at The Domain.

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Since my special man likes to smell good, I went browsing at the Macy’s fragrance counter.

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I discovered this deluxe gift set of the new Nautica LIFE.  It retails for $65 (even though it’s valued at $128.00). It includes a 3.4 oz Eau de Toilette, 2.5 oz Aftershave Balm, 2.5 oz Shower Gel, and 1 oz Eau de Toilette.

Love this new Nautica Life cologne. Great gift set.

You can celebrate your lifelong journey with the DAD in your life with new Nautica Life!

I have teamed up with Nautica fragrances via Collective Bias to host an amazing giveaway with 3 very easy ways to enter.
-One GRAND PRIZE winner will win a $4,000 cruise vacation package
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NOTE: There is a happy ending to this story – the siblings were placed with a family member nearby. We run into the kids occasionally, and they seem well and happy.

12:37 pm by Penelope

Think You’re Too Old to be a Parent?

Kenneth’s story on adoption as an older parent!

I sat at the kitchen table drinking a glass of ice-cold water. It was late June, in the middle of a Texas drought. The temperature outside hovered around 110 degrees. My cell phone rang. With sweat dripping down my nose I glanced at the caller ID.

The name of our child placing agency appeared on the screen. I sighed. We had turned down several placements for different reasons. So, even though I didn’t feel like taking the call, I hit the accept button.

My wife and I were in our mid to late 40s, and we wanted to adopt through foster care. Because of our age, we expected to foster children who were in the 5-10 year-old range. We put twin beds in the anticipated children’s room. We accumulated age-appropriate toys and accessories.

I felt ready as I could be for a child to come into our family…as long as they weren’t too young.

I listened to the case worker as she described the child that needed a home immediately. Did she just say he was about eight-months-old?

My mind struggled to keep up with the conversation as she quickly gave me what information she had, but my thoughts about the child’s age competed for air-time.

“We don’t have anything that a child this young needs. Nothing.“, I thought to myself. And, I didn’t know if I had the energy to foster an eight-month-old baby.

Yet, I had no other reason to not accept this placement, especially when the caseworker stated that in her opinion the baby would stay with us for only a couple of weeks. Several extended family members had an interest in the child, so most likely he would end up with one of them soon.

I accepted the placement mainly because I felt I could do anything for a couple of weeks.

Two weeks later when I celebrated my 50th birthday, that precious baby boy was still living in our home. In fact, he still is. We adopted him just before his second birthday, and now he is over four-years-old!

I admit, I mentally struggled with being almost 50 years older than my son. I even voiced my concern at times, usually in a joking manner. I wondered if I was too old to adopt a child so much younger than me.

God seemed to notice. I began to meet or learn of several men who had young children later in life. They each expressed the joy and benefits they encountered because of this fact.

Benefits to adoption for older parents:

  • I am never too old to love and provide a home for a child.
  • I am better off financially. I have 10-20 years of learning how to manage money, save, and invest. Not that money buys happiness, but it can lend to a less stressful home environment.
  • I have more life experience. Maybe you have already raised children, or like us have traveled and lived in different parts of the world. At the very least, I have learned from both mistakes and success from living more life.
  • I understand the brevity of life. I have a better grasp on how quickly life goes by, so I understand the importance of living life and learning life lessons now rather than “getting to it later.”
  • I have grounded expectations. I don’t place as many expectations on my son as I probably would have in my younger years. Partly this is because I don’t feel the pressure to meet others expectations now like I used to feel.

So, are you too old to adopt a child? Think of it this way, do you think a child would rather have older parents…or no parents at all?

If you want to read our entire foster and adoption story, check out Adopting the Father’s Heart.

KennethCamp

Kenneth Camp is a longtime Austinite. Although he married his beautiful wife over 25 years ago; they adopted their son in September 2012. He loves being a writer after previous careers that include project management, missionary, and pastor. He enjoys sports (both watching and playing), traveling, reading, digging in dirt and hanging with friends and family. You can find more of his writing on his blog.

 

Youre never too old to love a child.

 

Youre never too old to love a child. Great adoption quote.

3:02 pm by Penelope

Are You Really Ready for Baby? 10 Must-Have Baby Items

Becoming a mom for the first time is quite overwhelming in of itself. However, as a foster parent, I became a mother of a baby for the very first time with hardly any notice at all.  Overwhelmed is an understatement of what I was going through – I was completely utterly frazzled for over a month!

For a few weeks, I had to take a trip to the store – every – single – day – to pick up some sort of baby paraphernalia.

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Top 10 Must-Have Baby Items:

1.  Crib* – Our caseworker wouldn’t even consider placing a baby with us until we had a crib ready to go. This requirement turned out well since we only had a couple hours notice that an 8-month-old baby boy was on his way to live in our home.

2.  Infant Car Seat* – Another item our caseworker required before she would place a baby with us was an infant car seat. But just because I owned one didn’t mean I knew how to install it into the car! Thank goodness my neighbor was home that next morning to teach me how to strap it into the car correctly! Note: don’t do like me – learn the correct way to install a car seat and practice before you get the placement call.

3.  Formula – When my baby arrived, I was handed a can of formula, a box of baby cereal, and a few jars of baby food. I had no clue of how much of what to feed my new baby!!!  Similac has a great reference in this baby feeding chart to help clueless moms like me! And here’s a guide to introducing solid food to baby.

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4. Swaddle Wrap – Swaddling your baby mimics the tightness of the womb. Swaddling is especially important if your foster baby has been exposed to drugs in utero – tight swaddling helps calm the baby through withdrawal and tremors.

5. Baby Carrier – Babywearing is the name of the game with neglected or drug-exposed infants. “Wearing” or carrying your baby as much as possible helps with soothing and attachment. One of the biggest regrets I have as a mother is that I did not “wear” my neglected baby. This Mei Tai carrier is highly rated for less than $30.

6. Baby Activity Center – In the last seven years, I have mothered 7 foster babies (two of these are my forever babies).  All seven of my infants loved all the sensory stimulation fun that comes in one of these. Great place for baby when cooking dinner.

7.  Vibrating Teether – Babies love the massaging action on their sore gums plus the sensory stimulation is an added bonus with this type of teether.

8. White Noise Machine – It’s important for drug-addicted infants to have a calm, dimly-lit environment. White noise can help calm a baby.

9. Digital thermometer – Babies get sick – plan on it! Having a thermometer on hand will give you peace of mind when your baby just doesn’t seem right and might have a fever. I prefer ear thermometers – much easier to check for fever.

10.  Nasal Aspirator (aka snot sucker) – And babies get congested too! I’ve read rave reviews about this manual one.

I am honored to be joining the Sisterhood of Motherhood to encourage parents to support each other and to unite around the idea that we’re all in this journey of parenthood together. Support other new moms without the judgement!

Join me and become a part of the sisterhood!

Disclosure: I am honored to partner with Similac in the Sisterhood of Motherhood campaign to support other moms rather than place judgement. #SisterhoodUnite #ParentsFirst

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