My name is Mama Foster, I choose to hide who I am so I can share the REAL stories of fostering my wonderful kids.
I want to thank Penny for letting me guest post! I love her blog (I check it up to twice a day!) – I am a total blog stalker!
I thought I would share with you guys a little of what I have learned about adopting through foster care because, trust me, it is nothing like I thought it would be!
My husband and I have an 8 year old son that we made the old fashion way. After my annoyingly eventful pregnancy I really didn’t have any desire to get pregnant again. He was born healthy and beautiful and I was thankful for that, and that it was over with!! So, we went almost 5 years without being too worried about adding more kids to our family-plus we were young, we had time.
So, after my son’s 6th birthday I FINALLY was feeling baby crazy, but not pregnancy crazy. My husband and I had always thought about adoption but it never became quite as real as it did when my husband finally said “We should just adopt!” after I had asked God to show me if we should adopt by having my husband finally be the one to bring it up!
So, long story short, we settled on foster to adopt. Sounds easy right? -all you foster moms can stop laugh now –
We got licensed and our first call was for a 2 year old little girl we were only supposed to have for 3 months.
We had walked through fire for her and with her.
We had hoped to adopt her.
And then the judge sent her back to her ill prepared mom.
That was only 3 weeks ago, if that.
Our wounds are still fresh, and though I have not mentioned them, we have had 2 other foster children as well. One went on to be adopted by someone else and one is still with us but will probably be returned to her mother as well.
What I have learned through ALL of this is that these children desperately need someone who is willing to risk everything to love them during this time of total upheaval in their lives. As I mentioned on my own blog a few days ago, I was very scared that we would not be able to handle a child we loved leaving. Little did I know what it would really do. My daughter, yes-MY daughter, leaving has lit a fire inside of me.
I saw the sadness in her eyes of going in between our two homes.
I saw the confusion of having 2 mommies.
I was there when she told me her uncle was molesting her – repeatedly.
I took her to the ER.
I did everything within my legal power to help her.
When I say that we walked through fire for her, it was truly WITH her. These children have to do this with OR without us. They can either live with a family that gives them 100% or one who isn’t worried about what is going on in their little hearts. I went into this to adopt, to get my kids and get out-but that wasn’t God’s plan.
He has called us to do more than what we planned. He has called us to give up some of our comfort for a little one that has all of theirs stripped away.
The week after our daughter left we finally met a little boy that we have been asked to adopt.
He is almost 2 years old, and has blonde hair and greenish eyes just like our biological son.
God does not miss a thing. He has a plan and I truly mean it when I say, we are just blessed to be asked to be part of it.
Mama Foster is a 20 something mom and wife who has been married to her awesome hubby for 9 years. She has fostered 3 kids so far since she and her husband were licensed to foster 2 years ago. She and her husband are currently working to get their first official adoptable son home as soon as possible, the adoption is via the United States Foster Care System. She enjoys spoiling all her kids rotten and taking pictures of them while she does it. She blogs her heart out at http://mamafoster.blogspot.com
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