PHOTO CAPTION CONTEST WINNER
The winner of yesterday’s photo caption contest is Denver Laura of Fertility Alphabet Soup who is making the leap from fertility treatments to foster care. This month, she had the joy of an 8-month-old baby boy in her home and then the disappointment of his leaving with a relative. Go give her a *BIG* virtual hug!!!
BLENDING FOSTER KIDS INTO ONE FAMILY
Now – Say a BIG “Howdy” to La Mama Loca, a foster mom that has adopted 5 of her foster children! Her family of 7 is about to move from the Midwest to Puerto Rico…
- Smarty Pants had just turned 5 years old, less than two weeks before we got him.
- Sweet Thing was 3, almost 4 years old.
- Drama Mama was 2.5….and every bit her nickname!
Over the next few years, we added other foster children into our home. Almost a year into their placement, we added Goofy Girl. She had been a pre-adoptive placement and been doing (free) respite from 14 mos-18 mos. The kids were so excited to have her finally move in. They have always had warm and loving hearts and welcomed her in.
At that point, we had 6 children in our home. We also had Chunky Monkey…the 1/2 brother of the older three kids. He was with us for the first year of his life. The kids did not know he was their 1/2 brother right away. We were really torn on how to handle this issue. They had no contact with their bio family. For two years, we had no idea where their bio mother was, if she was dead or alive. It was a total out of the blue call telling us that Chunky Monkey existed and was in care! CM had weekly visitation with bio mom and his father. He went home at 13 months old. This was very hard for the kids. They were very very very concerned about him, if bio mom was making good choices, if he was safe. Losing him was heartbreaking for all of us. Yet we also saw God’s hand on the situation. While bio mom made a lot of stupid choices in those past few years, she also realized it. She worked hard to get Chunky Monkey back. We developed a relationship with her, that while it has its ups and downs, has been a blessing. We now have frequent contact with Chunky Monkey, Mr. Macho, and La Gorda, the other two half siblings.
We have now finalized the adoption of our 5 children.
We have, by the grace of God, managed to blend three families into one. We have an open adoption with both bio mothers, but currently, only contact with 1. We know we are not the only family these children have. With boundaries, we have managed to have good relationships with extended bio family. The kids know there are biological differences amongst them. We talk a lot about how we are a family formed by adoption with a lot of people to love them. Like any group of 5 siblings, they bicker and fight. Yet they also have a very tight bond that no one can tear apart.
Love has brought our family together in a way, we never imagined. We continue to pray about adding more children to our family! We can’t get enough crazy in our lives!