Help! Is This Oppositional Defiant Disorder?


Our strong-willed preschool son is a defiant one! This strong-willed Kindergartener has been so demanding and obstinate lately. And we are exhausted!

We recently attended a foster care training on mental health issues, such as depression, PTSD, AD/HD.  And when the speaker showed the slide on Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), our mouths fell open…

What is Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

ODD is a pattern of negative, hostile and defiant acts that lasts more than 6 months. (How about 2+ years?)

Symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder

  • Loses temper easily
  • Argues with adults
  • Refuses to obey rules
  • Often annoys people on purpose
  • Blames others for his mistakes
  • Often touchy or easily annoyed with others
  • Often angry and resentful
  • Often spiteful

A child must exhibit at least 4 or more of the following symptoms to be diagnosed with ODD.

My son exhibits every single symptom of ODD!!!

Now don’t get me wrong – I am not diagnosing my son  with ODD! To the contrary, my prayer is that he does not have ODD.

Because…get this: He has had no tantrums at school this entire year! My observations are that he only exhibits these symptoms of ODD with his parents!

Is my son a future Oscar winner? A strong-willed boy manipulating his parents?  Should we revamp to a more structured disciplinary program for him?

What is your experience with Oppositional Defiant Disorder? Could he be manipulating us? What disciplinary actions do you suggest?

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